Despite the COVID-19 pandemic, millions of Americans went home for the holidays. For many adults, this is one of the few occasions when multiple generations gather under one roof. If your parents are getting up there in years, your trip back to the family homestead can lead to concern if you see the unmistakable signs of physical or cognitive decline in your parents.
Did you visit your parents over the holidays? Did you notice some changes that are leaving you concerned?
Was the mail piled up or unopened?
Were there notices from creditors?
Were there carpet stains from dropping things?
Was there an odor of urine in the house?
Were mom’s family recipes burned or not cooked enough?
Was there insufficient food in the pantry or decaying food in the refrigerator?
Were the pets being cared for?
Was the home being maintained as usual?
Did the car have signs of damage?
Were there changes in personality, hygiene, or ability to engage in dinner conversation?
If observed any of the above changes, all may NOT be well, despite your parents’ claims to the contrary.
What should you do? The first step is to talk with your parents about their care needs in a way that enables them to identify the problem and come up with potential solutions. If the decline is physical, not cognitive, it is critical that your parents are the ones making the decision to seek help. Above all, let compassion be your guide as you initiate these difficult conversations.
If you become concerned about an elderly loved one’s ability to care for him or herself, Takacs McGinnis Elder Care Law may be able to help. Call 615.824.2571 to schedule an appointment to discuss your situation.