When Gratitude Turns to Concern
More than 40 million Americans were expected to hit the roadways, railways and airways as they headed home for the Thanksgiving holiday. This time-honored tradition, one of the few occasions when multiple generations gather under one roof, is often the first time that adult children may observe unmistakable signs of physical or cognitive decline in aging loved ones.
Did you notice some changes that are leaving you concerned? The following signs may indicate that not all is well with mom and dad.
Was the mail piled up or unopened?
Were there notices from creditors?
Were there carpet stains from dropping things?
Was there an odor of urine in the house?
Were mom’s family recipes burned or not cooked enough?
Was there insufficient food in the pantry or decaying food in the refrigerator?
Were the pets being cared for?
Was the home being maintained as usual?
Did the car have signs of damage?
Were there changes in personality, hygiene, or ability to engage in dinner conversation?
If observed any of the above changes, talk with your parents about their care needs in a way that enables them to identify the problem and come up with potential solutions. If the decline is physical, not cognitive, it is critical that your parents are the ones making the decision to seek help. Above all, let compassion be your guide as you initiate these difficult conversations.
If you become concerned about an elderly loved one’s ability to care for him or herself, Takacs McGinnis Elder Care Law may be able to help. Just give us a call at 615.824.2571 to schedule an appointment to discuss your situation.